A Seller’s Guide - Taking Care Of Buyers

Seller Tips For Sellers

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Treat them as individuals

Every buyer has their own wants, preferences, expectations and ways of doing things. We can’t a**ume they are all the same or want the same thing.

Don’t lump them all in together

Part of selling is dealing with time wasters and people who are rude, it’s not nice but neither is a**uming that the next buyer you interact with will be the same or using a statement like “all buyers ‘.

I know I find it a tad meh when I see an “all sellers “att*tude because it’s simply not true.

You can’t lump everyone in together because of the actions of one person.

Time wasters

A time waster is someone with zero intention of actually buying they just want attention or to enjoy the fantasy of buying, unfortunately they exist in selling and it’s frustrating but (similar to what I’ve said above) you can’t a**ume, and you shouldn’t brand.

The term time waster can’t be thrown at someone who has changed their mind or says no, they are ent*tled to do that just as much as we are ent*tled to say no to working with them.

Someone may say no at that moment but may come back later or keep you in mind, jumping straight to conclusions is going to burn bridges.

Setting up play time

When discussing an order, it helps to be thorough and take the time to understand exactly what a buyer wants.

I like to know limits (including names), boundaries, for things like erotica or an audio or custom I like to know if there’s any names or phrases they want included, when it comes to panties do they want them taken off when you’re being intimate or is that not an issue.

I know it’s time consuming but it’s better to gain the best understanding possible and make it the best experience and I find by doing this I feel more comfortable, the last thing I want to do is call them a name they don’t like or talk about a kink they don’t enjoy.

Kink is enjoyed differently

Each buyer will enjoy kink differently; don’t ever a**ume they all want it to be the same or done the same way.

Not all subs want to be called losers or want to be degraded.

Not all those into findom want to just cash out because you’ve asked or want to be humiliated.

Not all buyers want to be called pigs or freaks.

Not all buyers / subs are into findom.

It comes back to treating them as individuals, blanket statements aren’t what buyers want. Get to know them or at least check what they like to be called first.

It’s not a guarantee

Keep your expectations realistic, not all buyers who approach you or engage with you are going to want to buy from you.

They should feel comfortable enough to approach and ask questions about something without being branded if they don’t want to go ahead or made to feel bad about it.

You should also respect being told no; you aren’t owed an explanation as to why. Let’s face it, it’s a two-way street, I don’t like it, so I certainly won’t do it.

Recognise the good

It’s important to recognise and acknowledge the good buyers!

I know as a seller how easy it is to be left disheartened at times by those who are genuine time wasters or those who are rude, but I’ve learned that for every one of those there are so many great buyers.

There are buyers who have been and continue to be an amazing support to me. It’s not all about the sales either, they’ve offered a friendly ear, some advice and just generally been supportive.

When you see and recognise the good it makes it better for you as a seller, it opens you up to better experiences.

It’s like I touched upon above about not lumping everyone in together, when you do that, you potentially miss out on not only a great experience but in reality, on sales. Buyers aren’t all the same and if you have just had a bad experience with one, I understand it will leave a bad taste but then carrying the att*tude or a**umption across onto the next buyer that they’ll be the same isn’t good for you or fair on that buyer.

Be honest

If I can’t do something or I don’t think I can do it well, I will say.

Buyers know when you aren’t into something, or it’s not been given it’s all. This is why it’s important to be honest with yourself and then them, ask yourself can I do it in the time frame given? Can I dedicate myself to it fully? Will I actually enjoy it?

Hard selling

Buyers do not want hard sales or sales pitches in the first message.

If they post asking for something and you can help then comment or reach out (if that is their preference) but don’t a**ume they’ll say yes, don’t just come at someone without so much as a hello.

Also copy and paste messages are a turn off for many buyers, they are individuals and know what they want.

Do your research

Read bios, (I know not everyone fills them out and I must admit I find that a tad disappointing because it really does help and can be a time saver) but for those that do make sure you read it in full, it can also be a great ice breaker.

Respect any boundaries or messaging preferences. Are they owned? If they can buy from others, have you ensured they have approval to do so with you? Do they want to message first or be messaged?

Ask questions and find out about someone’s limits, including names. Take the time to ask any questions you feel relevant and let the buyer ask what they need / want to.

Have you checked your payment methods match? Buyers, please state them in your bio, it really helps us and you.

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